When I saw this link up being promoted on Tales of a Twenty-something, i just knew i wanted to join Allie and Bold Baby Butter for a walk down memory lane in talking about some of our dating disasters.
One perfect storm one came to mind.
This was about 4 years ago when I was on an on-line dating service. You may have heard of it, Plenty of Fish?
omg, i THOUGHT that I was talking to this cool guy. We'll call him D. we had corresponded online for about a month before we decided we'd like to meet in person for our first so-called date.
he made me laugh. he was dark blonde with hazel eyes, i think? lol. he was Christian. he called me darling. We were close in age.
I started to like him even though he was kinda dorky and he told me he loved brunettes. hello! we both enjoyed talking on the phone with each other.
because I can't go anywhere alone due to my medical situation, my caregiver Sofia went w/me to meet D for coffee. we decided we'd just pick up some starbucks and then find a place to sit & chat, and while us 2 were sitting together, sofia sat at another table some distance from us to give us privacy.
Well, we of course arrive early (i don't like to be late) and he called lost & running a little late.I told him where we were and he'd be there in a few minutes. I keep my eyes peeled for him and what I think he looks like (according to his profile pics). I was weaving my gaze through the people approaching and I spot him!
I mumbled, OH NO! I see him. I can't believe this, that's him! I said to sofia, OMG this is not going to work! hahaha..I was like what the hell!? (i know, i might sound conceited, but this was a preview of the date)
As he walked closer to the door, he dawdled like how shaggy walks from the cartoon Scooby doo, which made me chuckle. Plus he looked like he just rolled outta bed! His shirt had stains on it and not tucked into his shirt or anything. He wore dirty tennis shoes, his hair a mess.
SO I smiled and greeted him. I was nervous already and more so when I already knew I was probably gonna have to let him down.
We got into line for coffee and made small talk. He first went in front of me in line and just paid for his drink. He didn't offer to pay for mine! Sofia met my eyes as she couldn't believe that and that he was not so gentlman-ly. We both smirked.
So we get our drinks and go find a table to talk.
I put alot of effort into looking cute for this first "coffee date" and I was pretty bummed to see him in person without making any effort.
Maybe I was being too harsh, i thought?
Maybe my expectations were too high?
How shallow was I to be making fun (in my head) of how he carried himself?
I said No way especially in the first 15 minutes of sitting there talking with him because I was getting this weird vibe from him.
My guts did not give me a 100% comfortable feeling being in his presence.
To me, that was the sign from the Spirit telling me this dude was a no-go!
I ended our supposed-to-be-an-hour meeting a bit early and made the excuse that Sofia wanted to go check out this store before we left the shopping area and that i had to go.
I called him later that evening or he called me, I can't remember. But i just told him, I am sorry, this isn't going work.
Oh D, I am really sorry I hurt your feelings.
Sorry i had to break your heart.
It sucks because I've been broken-hearted and the heart-breaker.
That's what happens in the realm of love.
Never again have I met a guy in person from on-line! lol.