Monday, March 10, 2014

Because you are...



I've been debating about when to publish this post. While my original plan was to post this on thursday (running back and forth about the fact that giveaways do better when started on a monday--i read this stat somewhere)..and my plans for sunday style (tomorrow)...i just couldn't fight the feeling that it needed to be posted today.

I typed my thoughts for this post at 2:08 am yesterday morning while laying in bed. Sometimes, the best inspiration comes to me at night when I can't sleep, haha. My cousin Joe has these moments too, and maybe that's the artist in us. The creative mind. I hope it leaves you thinking about how great you are, even if we don't know each other.

Did you know that you are worth so much? So much more than the price of Rubies (Proverbs 31). Do you feel unloved, less than or lonely? I know that I do at times. I know that comparison is a killer of joy. I am guilty of comparing myself to other who I "see" as perfect. This leads to me not loving myself and not being thankful for the talents and gifts I DO have! For every good and perfect gift is from above (James 1:17). The girl I see as perfect, who has a pretty face, a thinner body, healthy hair and stylish clothes, well she has struggles too. She faces insecurities just as I do. No one is exempt from trials and hardships. No one is entirely happy all. the. time. It's comforting to know that God sees all his children on an equal plane. No one is above the other. I want to see others and myself as God sees them! and it's possible.

How can I say that you are beautiful or handsome? That you are loved? That you are worth MORE than you think? I can because I am a daughter, sister/sibling, friend just like you. I understand how it feels to doubt myself. I know how it feels to think your life may never change...for the better. I've been in that place where you don't feel pretty (hey, i still sometimes think that!). You are pretty (or handsome, guys!). I've been in that place where you don't feel like what you have to give is enough. You are so valuable in our father's eyes and in others, because you are! You are full of promise! Believe that. Your life is a gift. You are here for a divine reason. Your life is meant to touch others. Your life is a gift to others even if you think you haven't made an impact in some large scale. It's the little things. If you don't think so, try focusing on someone in need, a complete stranger perhaps and do some simple act of kindness. I bet you'll feel better that you extended love and generosity to someone who was very possibly having some struggle too. I promise you hope. There is always hope. Hold onto it. Believe in miracles because you are a miracle.

4 comments:

Lynne said...

This is so true - Comparison is such a joy-sucker......your post reminds me of that quote, I don't know who said it, I'm not sure I have ever seen it attributed to an individual. It is something like "Be kind to everyone because everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle..." you really don't know what is happening inside of, or in the life of someone who seemingly has it all together.....

holli said...

You are a beautiful woman inside and out and i love reading every single post you write! Love you sweet girl!

Karrie S said...

SO glad you posted this...so TMI: I stopped my birth control med last July after being on it for two years. I am now starting to feel the emotional effects...like crying for no reason a lot (or like last night while watching Long Island, haha). I didn't cry a lot while on the med. If I cried, it was for a reason or because I missed my sister...specific feelings/reasons. I was crying because I'm not where I want to be and I'm 35 and feel like my life is DEFINITELY not where I wanted it to be. THEN. You wrote about not even being sure if you were going to post this. I was crying because I just felt really lonely at the moment.

Then I read the your words about unconditional love and "comparison is such a joy-sucker". I am not feeling pretty (weight, glasses, hair) and just felt extra emotional about where my life is versus where I thought I would be. What you said instantly touched my heart. And excuse the French, Brittany eff-ing just nailed it. She almost didn't write this, but I feel like this is EXACTLY what I needed to read, at that exact minute. It really helped put things in reality. So what if I'm behind a few years? Will it matter in the end? Will I be homeless, hungry, and in danger if I am in this spot right now? No, I am in a huge comfy bed (while there are threats of a winter storm of 2-10 inches that was supposed to start 7 hours ago, but hasn't started yet). And I'm not alone...there ARE people that care and love me, and if there was no one left to do that, I KNOW I will always have God, and I will be ok.

I'm happy that you decided to post that. I think it was meant for me. Funny how that happens? Coincidence? I think not :)

Love you doll!

E (E Kay) said...

I'm so glad I came across this post, and your blog. I've been so wrapped up in vanity and insecurity and have been focusing on and praying for the wrong things. I also liked in your previous post where you mentioned your friend who has bi-polar disorder because I struggle with severe anxiety and let it control my life too often and also feel ashamed. Thank you for this, you've posted a lot of things that I've been needing to hear (read). You're a truly beautiful person.